tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post6151199941035746208..comments2023-11-05T04:57:22.240-05:00Comments on Craving Silence: Perspective altering questionsShaniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15987082306573944813noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-61528602968397762372008-09-11T23:52:00.000-04:002008-09-11T23:52:00.000-04:00I can't believe that you can be so articulate abou...I can't believe that you can be so articulate about this huge sea change. However, your articular-ity does show how "done" you really are. You're not in the midst of feeling this thing; you're already over it.<BR/><BR/>That's how it reads, anyhow. All power to you, dear.Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03227519811818290510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-1121018218784189022008-09-11T23:20:00.000-04:002008-09-11T23:20:00.000-04:00So sorry. I had no idea. But I do know what it fee...So sorry. I had no idea. But I do know what it feels like when you know it's over, and have to stay awhile longer....<BR/><BR/>HugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-38233366046543315192008-09-11T11:19:00.000-04:002008-09-11T11:19:00.000-04:00you know what? marriage is a lot of hard work and ...you know what? marriage is a lot of hard work and it's really easy to get in a rut of daily life and forget to work on your marriage.<BR/><BR/>however.<BR/><BR/>there definitely are times when you KNOW that things aren't right. That it's time to move on and live your own life. You aren't his mother and it sounds like he wanted you to be. And I know it's going to be a long, hard process, but you are a strong woman. And I know you'll get through it.<BR/><BR/>hugs!moohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14368972191690127217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-5718669135840269432008-09-11T08:40:00.000-04:002008-09-11T08:40:00.000-04:00I can't imagine how hard this is. But you're right...I can't imagine how hard this is. But you're right, you need a plan so that you're not hung out to dry. <BR/><BR/>Life is short, so happiness shouldn't be put off. I'm glad that you're focusing on YOU now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-23105764349296001192008-09-10T21:10:00.000-04:002008-09-10T21:10:00.000-04:00I've been there too. Strangely, I like him now. Bu...I've been there too. Strangely, I like him now. But I changed, he didn't. (Also, there is dog shit all over the floor and no one cleans it up.)the queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10263293738568555668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-89874739566611568482008-09-10T20:59:00.000-04:002008-09-10T20:59:00.000-04:00So sorry to learn of your situation. My thoughts a...So sorry to learn of your situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you face the challenges ahead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-44580624439269947042008-09-10T18:30:00.000-04:002008-09-10T18:30:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry darlin. It's tough, so so tough to j...I'm so sorry darlin. It's tough, so so tough to just admit what you've said. <BR/><BR/>And very brave.<BR/><BR/>You're strong. You will get through this. Just be sure you keep in touch with someone who knows, okay? Don't do the planning and stuff on your own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-38764272205811133242008-09-10T15:14:00.000-04:002008-09-10T15:14:00.000-04:00"When I'm on my way home and come around the bend ..."When I'm on my way home and come around the bend in the road and see his truck in the drive, I wince. When I see his number on caller id, I cringe."<BR/><BR/>Oh Shania, I had such a lump in my throat, It was like reading something I would have written myself a few years ago. Judging from commentators here, many people feel the same way. <BR/><BR/>Whatever your future holds, stay strong. You will get through it.Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08875042157784337038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-64253902911533049642008-09-10T13:35:00.000-04:002008-09-10T13:35:00.000-04:00Oh my. Did you marry my ex-husband? I should've ...Oh my. Did you marry my ex-husband? I should've warned you. I got out. I didn't have children, we didn't own a home, and we had practically no assets but it was still a painful, bitter, pain in the ass. But worth it.<BR/><BR/>I am not saying that's what you should do (only you will be able to make that decision) but that you should think about how you want to live the rest of your life. <BR/><BR/>No matter what you decide, you need a plan. If you stay, what can you do (if anything) to get some happiness to feel that you are valued and respected (because that's what it comes down to really). If you leave, well, that's a whole sort of different planning altogether.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with whatever you decide.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-86588400179843695742008-09-10T11:13:00.000-04:002008-09-10T11:13:00.000-04:00Lady, I think you just described my life. The dif...Lady, I think you just described my life. The difference - I'm not strong enough to leave, so I'll just stay forever, miserable most of the time. <BR/><BR/>I realized last night, though, that I have been unnaturally sharp with him of late, and wonder if it's possible I'm peri-menopausal. Maybe. That would be a great excuse, rather than I just don't like him.<BR/><BR/>::hugs:: This is a tough one. Thanks for having the courage to say it.Candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14070433904661239686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-18106369549764387302008-09-10T11:00:00.000-04:002008-09-10T11:00:00.000-04:00Oh Shania... big hugs.You're right, I think we did...Oh Shania... big hugs.<BR/><BR/>You're right, I think we did marry the same man, lol. And I'm sorry you're unhappy.<BR/><BR/>I wish it were easier to fix things once they've gone downhill... 6 happy years was a good run, compared to my... 1?<BR/><BR/>But it is daunting when you get in that rut together, and that pattern of behaviour. Hang in there and set your goals, a plan will hopefully make it smoother.Twisting Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13746412363659888936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017250613851027863.post-69450476182206521502008-09-10T09:50:00.000-04:002008-09-10T09:50:00.000-04:00Oh hon, I'm so sorry. I've been there. I...Oh hon, I'm so sorry. I've been there. I used to dread my ex coming home (he worked in another state) and my oldest would count down the days until he left to go to work again. That's no way to live. You're right, you do need a plan. Even in our case, where it was a mutual decision to divorce, things still get messy & bitter. My thoughts are with you.CelticBuffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467367934488336830noreply@blogger.com